It’s funny, we know our self worth and how we should be treated when we’re single. Then suddenly, we meet the guy that shows us some flattering attention, and we’re knocked off our game. Those ideals and standards you carried for your future boyfriend sail right out the window. Our friends hear our justifications as to why he doesn’t need to be this or that. Then one day we wake up, and wonder how in the world we ever got to this place with this person who isn’t at all what we imagined. Now we question if our hopes and desires are unrealistic and maybe the way he mistreats us is our fault and that we somehow deserve to settle.

How can you fix this? It goes back to something completely simple…. create a list that will serve as the basic framework for qualities to keep an eye on when you're dating and meeting new guys.

Three things most of us will have on our list: protective, patience and kind

I've already created my list. Which includes a whole range of ideals anything from cooking together to church on Sunday. Will you be making a list?